“Perception is Reality”
You, the real you — the higher/deeper you — but your mind/body does not know the difference between what has happened, what is happening, and what you imagine happening to it in the future. Stop and think for a minute about the last thing your mind “pictured” happening (a TV scene that was scary, a news report, etc). When you mind conjured those images it was “experiencing” those images. Your heart raced when the man was being chased by the police, your pupils dilated as well when the movie showed the detective scanning the room for clues.
One of the most helpful strategies to alter how you feel is altering what perceptions you allow into your view, or in other words, not allowing the reality to DEFINE who you are or how you spend your time mentally.
Trials (Sensitivities, Fatigue, Sleep problems)
Trauma Triggers
Stressors:
False stories:
Checkpoint Q: Do you believe that sometimes your thoughts or how you perceive certain things are the cause of distress? Even just things as mild as feeling in a low-mood, or worried someone’s upset with you after a disagreement. And have you also ever had it happen where your perception was actually inaccurate? Like maybe you *thought* they were upset with you, only to find out later that they were yelled at by their boss.
When you train your brain to delay your reaction time and respond more consciously/mindfully, instead of sub-consciously/mindlessly, you inject into the situation the possibility of responding more intentionally, with more more tact and more skill. Eventually you learn to stay grounded no matter what situations/challenges occur.
Let’s say after a long/hard day where you’ve experienced an upset stomach, you got nauseated from a food you ate that you didn’t know was in your salad, and you got upset when a customer misunderstood your intentions and was disappointment in your customer service. How do you respond? Do you say all that, and relay all the “bad” that happened. Or, perhaps you instead say, “It was a good day. I’m just feeling tired. A great strategy for this is that on your way home, consider the “whole” of the day and not only see the negative, and share the “summary argument”. The next time this happens, try to suWhat’s the most accurate had a good day. I’m so happy to be alive.” and your spouse/partner asks you “How you doin?”
“Sum total”
Everything in life could be a stressor, but on the flip side of the coin, everything can be used to
I want to be clear though, doing this practice of looking at the whole of the day and DECIDING which frame to give it “positive or negative” is NOT the same thing as denying your feelings, suppression of your emotions, or “bipassing” the truth. Those will further purpetuate your nervous system to feel unsafe, like “sharing the truth” is unsafe. I NEVER want anything I teach here to be interpreted that way; that is NOT my intention.
Controlling your reality is counterproductive.