Let’s work from examples we’ve all experienced. Let’s say as an adult your partner or a boss questions you whether you locked up all the doors to home/work properly or on time, and you react in a “disproportionate’ manner, either explosive or “implosive” manner (blaming yourself immediately), that’s not a natural biological response that is universal to all humans. If that’s your typical/usual response to see anyone questioning your judgement as an attack (to which you either fight flee, freeze or fawn, then it is your “conditioned” or trained response (from childhood usually) or from adult relationships that were less-than-healthy.

HOW PATHWAYS OF REACTION ARE SET

Let’s say your typical way of responding is to immediately believe their assessment before your own and second-guess yourself (even though you KNOW you DID lock up properly).

Ways these reactions can be established include all sorts of early/teen family dysfunctions, like: Authoritarian Upbringings, or even a lesser-known situation of “Childhood Emotional Neglect” (which you can read more on HERE).

WAYS TO RETRAIN:

The answer to his is simple: Senses taking in NEW stimuli and reacting in new ways, maintaining safety.

But the implementation can be tricky and is as UNIQUE as you are!

WHICH WILL YOU CHOOSE?